Relationship Counselling
We all have the potential for meaningful connections with other people, but sometimes things don't work out. Relationships are complicated, and you can often feel hurt and confused.
Do you feel that your partner isn't listening and that at times you are stuck in gridlock?
It may be that you have the same arguments over and over again. Both of you feel that resentment is building.
Maybe, you have different parenting styles which is causing friction.
Or, do you have nothing left to say, and that over the years you have grown apart.
It's likely that there is a lack of intimacy and perhaps there has been infidelity.
I can offer a safe space to talk about the unspoken, to heal the hurt and to strengthen the bond.
I can help you understand what's causing tension in your relationship and give you the tools for communicating and asking for what you need.
I listen without judgement, and I'm there for both of you: I never take sides. I can teach you skills that can make the changes you want to see in order to achieve a balanced and fulfilling relationship.
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Many couples are not sure what to expect when they come for Relationship Counselling. I always begin by asking what it is you would like to gain from sessions. Typically, most couples seem to highlight the following issues which they would like help with:
Connection
Communication
Intimacy
Conflict
Parenting or wider family issues
Infidelity & forgiveness
Navigating relationships if one or both of you are neuro-divergent.
Challenges with pornography, alcohol, drugs or gambling
Work-life-family balance
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My role as a relationship counsellor is to listen, remain neutral, and help clarify the changes that need to be made for your relationship to flourish.
You may well have watched "Couples Therapy" on TV and wonder if your sessions will be the same. I feel that whilst it is important to air your grievances and resentments, I tend to discourage sparring during our sessions as your time and money are too precious to waste.
You will be encouraged to examine your current behaviour patterns, but the
emphasis is focused on change.
Quite often, it is one partner that contacts me, whilst the other partner is more reticent. For them, it might seem embarrassing to admit that things are not going well.
Think of the initial session as like a relationship MOT. We can assess what's not working and then look to see how issues can be repaired.
All things can be improved, changed and made better, with just a little support, no matter how big or small.
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Conscious Uncoupling
Sometimes, relationships come to a natural end, and I can help you navigate this, so that it feels non threatening, and so that you feel more able to accept closure.
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